Rodinn\u00e9 kon\u0161tel\u00e1cie <\/strong><\/p>\nSolomon vyrastal v\u00a0z\u00e1mo\u017enej newyorskej \u0161tvrti Upper East Side, obklopen\u00fd l\u00e1skou, brata a\u00a0oboch rodi\u010dov, a\u00a0tak ne\u010dudo, \u017ee v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inu odli\u0161nost\u00ed, ktor\u00fdmi sa mal\u00e9 chlap\u010da vyzna\u010dovalo, rodi\u010dia ch\u00e1pavo akceptovali, ba a\u017e oslavne vyzdvihovali. No nie v\u0161etky.<\/p>\n
Ke\u010f mal dva roky, pani Solomonov\u00e1 zistila, \u017ee jej syn je dyslektik. Napriek katastrof\u00e1lnym progn\u00f3zam sa rozhodla, \u017ee ho nau\u010d\u00ed \u010d\u00edta\u0165 a\u00a0tak ka\u017ed\u00e9 popoludnie sed\u00e1val Andrew v\u00a0jej lone, obracal karti\u010dky s\u00a0obr\u00e1zkami a v\u010faka matkinmu enormn\u00e9mu \u00fasiliu sa z\u00a0neho stal v\u00fdnimo\u010dne zru\u010dn\u00fd \u010ditate\u013e. Ke\u010f si v\u0161ak ako \u0161es\u0165ro\u010dn\u00fd po n\u00e1kupe v\u00a0obuvi vybral za odmenu ru\u017eov\u00fd bal\u00f3nik, matka ho opravila a\u00a0podotkla, \u017ee jeho ob\u013e\u00faben\u00e1 farba je predsa modr\u00e1! Samot\u00e1rsky,\u00a0utiahnut\u00fd Andy tro\u0161ku \u201eo\u017eil\u201c a\u017e po\u010das vysoko\u0161kolsk\u00fdch \u0161t\u00fadi\u00ed na Yale a\u00a0nesk\u00f4r na Cambridge, v\u00a0tom \u010dase v\u0161ak u\u017e ve\u013emi dobre vedel, \u017ee je odjak\u017eiva gay. Chcel o\u00a0tom s\u00a0niek\u00fdm hovori\u0165, ale b\u00e1l sa. Nen\u00e1videl klamstvo, nen\u00e1videl, \u017ee kone\u010dne s\u00e1m seba vid\u00ed v\u00a0pravom svetle a\u00a0bez pr\u00edkras: ako homosexu\u00e1la, \u010dloveka s\u00a0depresiou a\u00a0postavou, ktor\u00e1 nie je atletick\u00e1,\u00a0ani dos\u0165 vysok\u00e1. Jeho detstvo bolo pln\u00e9 posme\u0161kov… Ak\u00e1 bude jeho dospelos\u0165?<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\nD\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e1 kapitola<\/strong><\/p>\nV\u00a0rodine Solomonovcov sa diskusia o smrti rozp\u00fatala ove\u013ea sk\u00f4r, ako mame Carolyn diagnostikovali rakovinu vaje\u010dn\u00edkov (mala len 25 rokov). \u201eNezn\u00e1\u0161am boles\u0165,\u201c vravievala. \u201eAk m\u00e1m niekedy dosiahnu\u0165 stav, \u017ee nebudem c\u00edti\u0165 ni\u010d in\u00e9, len boles\u0165, d\u00fafam, \u017ee jeden z\u00a0v\u00e1s bude schopn\u00fd zastreli\u0165 ma.\u201c Napokon, ke\u010f jej ochorenie post\u00fapilo do fin\u00e1lneho \u0161t\u00e1dia, vybrala si po vy\u0161e tridsiatich rokoch boja so z\u00e1kernou rakovinou d\u00e1tum svojej smrti: 19. j\u00fan 1991. Jej man\u017eel Howard i\u00a0synovia David a\u00a0Andrew jej na poslednej ceste robili spolo\u010dnos\u0165: mama Carolyn e\u0161te pripravila \u010dosi na ve\u010deru, u\u017eila mno\u017estvo tabletiek Seconalu (\u201eTo by malo sta\u010di\u0165,\u201c povedala po poslednej) a\u00a0potom mala rodina e\u0161te asi 45 min\u00fat na to, aby si v\u0161etci povedali posledn\u00e9. Matka po\u010fakovala synom, \u017ee boli t\u00fdmi najmilovanej\u0161\u00edmi de\u0165mi, ak\u00e9 si mohla pria\u0165. Potom oboch chytila za ruku a\u00a0vyjadrila n\u00e1dej, \u017ee l\u00e1ska, ktor\u00fa im dala, v\u00a0nich ostane po cel\u00fd \u017eivot. Trvalo p\u00e4\u0165 hod\u00edn, k\u00fdm celkom dod\u00fdchala a\u00a0pozostal\u00ed sa svorne zhodli, \u017ee pre matku to bola \u201ejemn\u00e1, upokojuj\u00faca smr\u0165\u201c.<\/p>\n
Po jej odchode Andrewa sm\u00fatok celkom paralyzoval. Nete\u0161ili ho priatelia, nezauj\u00edmala ho pr\u00e1ca, nebavilo ho v\u00f4bec ni\u010d, dokonca ho nenadchlo ani vydanie prvej knihy a\u00a0jej priazniv\u00e9 kritiky. \u201e\u013dahostajne som \u010d\u00edtal v\u0161etky tie ohlasy a\u00a0c\u00edtil som sa unaven\u00fd. V\u0161etko ma st\u00e1lo ove\u013ea viac \u00fasilia, ako sa mohlo zda\u0165. B\u00e1l som sa, \u017ee ma u\u017e nik nebude milova\u0165. Prestal som jes\u0165, preto\u017ee som nec\u00edtil hlad. Lek\u00e1r mi povedal, \u017ee m\u00e1m depresiu.\u201c<\/p>\n
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Nastal \u010das na zmenu<\/strong><\/p>\nKe\u010f sa kone\u010dne zbavil \u0165archy depresi\u00ed a pre\u0161la ho m\u00e1miv\u00e1 chu\u0165 fyzicky sa ni\u010di\u0165, vpadol do celkom inej,\u00a0menej de\u0161trukt\u00edvnej \u201ez\u00e1vislosti\u201c, ktorou bolo p\u00edsanie. Od roku 1993 a\u017e do roku 2001 prispieval do magaz\u00ednov New York Times a\u00a0The New Yorker, jeho \u010dl\u00e1nky sa pravidelne zjavovali aj v\u00a0\u010dasopisoch o\u00a0cestovan\u00ed alebo umen\u00ed. V\u00a0roku 2003, po publikovan\u00ed p\u00fatavej novely The Amazing Life of Laura (in\u0161pir\u00e1ciou mu bola Laura Rothenbergov\u00e1, pacientka s\u00a0cystickou fibr\u00f3zou), odborn\u00edci z\u00a0oblasti medic\u00edny ohodnotili jeho p\u00edsanie za v\u00fdnimo\u010dne pr\u00ednosn\u00e9 a\u00a0zvy\u0161uj\u00face povedomie laickej verejnosti. Nasledovali \u010fal\u0161ie knihy, zachyt\u00e1vaj\u00face osudy \u013eud\u00ed so zdravotn\u00fdmi i\u00a0psychick\u00fdmi probl\u00e9mami; jedna pribli\u017euje pr\u00edbehy rodi\u010dov, ktor\u00ed sa museli nielen nau\u010di\u0165 \u017ei\u0165 s\u00a0de\u0165mi s\u00a0autizmom, Downov\u00fdm syndr\u00f3mom alebo stratou sluchu, ale museli v\u00a0\u017eivote s\u00a0nimi h\u013eada\u0165 aj hlb\u0161\u00ed v\u00fdznam. In\u00e1 kniha The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression sa v\u00a0roku 2002 dostala do u\u017e\u0161ej nomin\u00e1cie na Pulitzerovu cenu a\u00a0lond\u00fdnsky Times ju zaradil do zoznamu sto najlep\u0161\u00edch kn\u00edh desa\u0165ro\u010dia. V\u00a0auguste 2013 Andrewovi Solomonovi udelili titul Ph.D v\u00a0odbore psychol\u00f3gia.<\/p>\n
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Re\u010d, ktor\u00fa si treba vypo\u010du\u0165 <\/strong><\/p>\nSympatick\u00fd a\u00a0v\u00fdre\u010dn\u00fd Andrew o\u010daril v\u00a0roku 2013 monol\u00f3gom, ktor\u00fd zodvihol posluch\u00e1\u010dov zo stoli\u010diek. Za\u010dal ho \u00faryvkom z\u00a0\u010dasopisu Time, datovan\u00fdm do roku 1966: \u201eHomosexualita je patetick\u00e1, mal\u00e1 a\u00a0druhorad\u00e1 n\u00e1hrada za realitu, po\u013eutovaniahodn\u00fd \u00falet zo \u017eivota. A\u00a0ako tak\u00e1 si nezasl\u00fa\u017ei s\u00facit, nezasl\u00fa\u017ei si lie\u010dbu a\u00a0nezasluhuje si by\u0165 pova\u017eovan\u00e1 za ni\u010d in\u00e9, len za zhubn\u00fa chorobu.\u201c Odvtedy sa v\u0161ak \u013eady pohli a na stranu man\u017eelstiev gayov sa postavil u\u017e aj prezident USA. Ako a\u00a0kedy sa z\u00a0choroby vlastne stala identita? Ako sa z\u00a0rodi\u010da, ktor\u00fd o\u010dak\u00e1va zdrav\u00e9 die\u0165a, stane nekone\u010dne akceptuj\u00faci rodi\u010d die\u0165a\u0165a s\u00a0nejak\u00fdm zdravotn\u00fdm probl\u00e9mom alebo odli\u0161nos\u0165ou? Tieto ot\u00e1zky si Solomon kladie hne\u010f na za\u010diatku, aby sa vz\u00e1p\u00e4t\u00ed podelil o\u00a0vlastn\u00fa sk\u00fasenos\u0165: Ke\u010f ho pred mnoh\u00fdmi rokmi editori magaz\u00ednu New York Times po\u017eiadali, nech nap\u00ed\u0161e report\u00e1\u017e o\u00a0nepo\u010duj\u00facich, ostal zasko\u010den\u00fd; stratu sluchu vn\u00edmal ako postihnutie, o\u00a0ktorom nemal ani potuchy. No \u010d\u00edm viac sa stret\u00e1val s\u00a0t\u00fdmito \u013eu\u010fmi, t\u00fdm sk\u00f4r prich\u00e1dzal na zistenie, \u017ee nejde o\u00a0postihnutie, ale o\u00a0odli\u0161nos\u0165. A\u00a0paradoxne – odli\u0161nos\u0165 je pod\u013ea Solomona to, \u010do \u013eud\u00ed sp\u00e1ja. Na z\u00e1klade svojho dlhoro\u010dn\u00e9ho v\u00fdskumu medzi rodi\u010dmi a\u00a0ich de\u0165mi s\u00a0Downov\u00fdm syndr\u00f3mom, autizmom, nanizmom a\u00a0\u010fal\u0161\u00edmi \u201eodli\u0161nos\u0165ami\u201c, sformuloval Solomon my\u0161lienku o\u00a0identit\u00e1ch vertik\u00e1lnych (tie, \u010do ded\u00edme po rodi\u010doch a\u00a0nedaj\u00fa sa zmeni\u0165 – etnick\u00fd p\u00f4vod, n\u00e1rodnos\u0165…) a\u00a0horizont\u00e1lnych (z\u00edskan\u00e9 po\u010das \u017eivota – tie, ktor\u00e9 sa nezhoduj\u00fa s\u00a0rodi\u010dovsk\u00fdmi, a\u00a0pr\u00e1ve preto sa tieto \u201enedostatky\u201c pok\u00fa\u0161aj\u00fa rodi\u010dia meni\u0165 alebo lie\u010di\u0165). V\u0161etk\u00fdch rodi\u010dov bez v\u00fdnimky, dokonca aj t\u00fdch, ktor\u00fdch deti sedia vo v\u00e4zen\u00ed ako zlo\u010dinci za obzvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 z\u00e1va\u017en\u00e9 trestn\u00e9 \u010diny, sa Andrew op\u00fdtal jednu z\u00e1sadn\u00fa ot\u00e1zku: Ak\u00e1 je \u010diara medzi bezpodmiene\u010dnou l\u00e1skou a\u00a0bezpodmiene\u010dn\u00fdm prijat\u00edm die\u0165a\u0165a? A\u00a0zistil, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd jeden rodi\u010d, napriek hr\u00f4ze, ktor\u00fa pre\u017e\u00edval, na\u0161iel v\u00a0rodi\u010dovstve zmysel \u017eivota. \u201eSvoje deti mus\u00edme vychov\u00e1va\u0165, mus\u00edme ich u\u010di\u0165 spr\u00e1vaniu, v\u0161tepi\u0165 im mor\u00e1lne hodnoty. Ale s\u00fa\u010das\u0165ou rodi\u010dovstva je tie\u017e oslava na\u0161ich det\u00ed za to, k\u00fdm s\u00fa. S\u00fa to jedine\u010dn\u00e9 osobnosti. In\u00e9 ako my. Odli\u0161n\u00ed \u013eudia nechc\u00fa by\u0165 lie\u010den\u00ed, menen\u00ed alebo akoko\u013evek eliminovan\u00ed. Chc\u00fa by\u0165 t\u00fdm, k\u00fdmko\u013evek s\u00fa, k\u00fdmko\u013evek sa stali,\u201c vrav\u00ed Andrew.<\/p>\n
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Andrew v\u00a0s\u00fakrom\u00ed <\/strong><\/p>\nAndrew je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00fdm hlasom a\u00a0aktivistom v\u00a0LGBT hnut\u00ed, anga\u017euje sa v\u00a0oblasti psychick\u00e9ho zdravia, vzdel\u00e1vania a\u00a0umenia a\u00a0okrem svojej sl\u00e1vnej prvej TED re\u010di si t\u00fato mo\u017enos\u0165 zopakoval e\u0161te dvakr\u00e1t (TED Talk z roku 2013 m\u00e1 n\u00e1zov: Depresia, tajomstvo, ktor\u00e9 zdie\u013eame a\u00a0v\u00a0roku 2014 hovoril o\u00a0tom, ako najhor\u0161ie okamihy v\u00a0na\u0161om \u017eivote formuj\u00fa z\u00a0n\u00e1s \u013eud\u00ed, ktor\u00fdmi sme dnes). M\u00e1 dvojak\u00fa \u0161t\u00e1tnu pr\u00edslu\u0161nos\u0165 a\u00a0s man\u017eelom Johnom a\u00a0mal\u00fdm synom Georgeom \u017eije striedavo v\u00a0Lond\u00fdne a\u00a0New Yorku. Dvojica m\u00e1 dovedna \u0161tyri deti, ale je to komplikovan\u00e9: John je biologick\u00fdm otcom Olivera a\u00a0Lucy, ktor\u00fdch m\u00e1 s\u00a0lesbick\u00fdmi partnerkami Tammy a\u00a0Laurou, \u017eij\u00facimi v Minneapolise. Andrew m\u00e1 dc\u00e9rku Blaine so svojou najlep\u0161ou kamo\u0161kou v\u00a0Texase, ktor\u00e1 sa rozviedla a\u00a0chcela ma\u0165 deti. Mal\u00fd George je biologick\u00fdm synom Andrewa, z\u00a0darovan\u00e9ho vaj\u00ed\u010dka ho vynosila Laura – jedna mama z\u00a0lesbick\u00e9ho p\u00e1ru v\u00a0Minneapolise – a\u00a0John je jeho adopt\u00edvnym otcom. Spo\u010d\u00edtan\u00e9 a\u00a0pod\u010diarknut\u00e9, \u0161tyri deti piatich rodi\u010dov v\u00a0troch \u0161t\u00e1toch. V\u0161etci dodr\u017eiavaj\u00fa pravidlo, \u017ee tak\u00e1to ve\u013ek\u00e1 rodina sa mus\u00ed vidie\u0165 aspo\u0148 raz za dva mesiace…<\/p>\n
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O \u010fal\u0161\u00edch dvoch re\u010dn\u00edkoch a\u00a0mu\u017eovi, ktor\u00fd \u0161\u00e9fuje s\u00fa\u010dasnej konferencii TED, si pre\u010d\u00edtate v novembrovom \u010d\u00edsle MIAU (2016)<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
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Hugh pri\u0161iel v\u00a0mladosti o\u00a0nohy a\u00a0dnes vyv\u00edja prvotriedne prot\u00e9zy. Andrew bol \u0161ikanovan\u00fd outsider, ktor\u00fd r\u00e1d rozpr\u00e1va o\u00a0tom, ako rozdiely \u013eud\u00ed zbli\u017euj\u00fa. Spoznajme spolu TED re\u010dn\u00edkov, ktor\u00fdch prejavy menia \u017eivoty…\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 Hugh Herr Kto je ten mu\u017e: Hugh je profesorom na Harvarde, kde sa ako \u0161\u00e9f v\u00fdskumn\u00e9ho t\u00edmu Biomechatronics Group zameriava na v\u00fdvoj najnov\u0161\u00edch […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":3500,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11,47],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3499","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-na-pohlad","category-november-2016"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3499","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3499"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3499\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3506,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3499\/revisions\/3506"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3500"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3499"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3499"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3499"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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