Dohadzova\u010dka, kupliarka, k\u0161eft\u00e1rka so vz\u0165ahmi… V\u0161etky tieto pomenovania znej\u00fa tak trochu pejorat\u00edvne. Ber\u00fa Slov\u00e1ci zoznamku e\u0161te st\u00e1le ako \u010dosi pikantn\u00e9, a\u017e neslu\u0161n\u00e9?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\nSt\u00e1le bojujeme so stereotypmi. Hanb\u00edme sa prizna\u0165, \u017ee sme sa s niek\u00fdm spoznali cez zoznamku. U\u017e fakt, \u017ee na tak\u00fato akciu ideme, sa mnoh\u00fdm zd\u00e1 problematick\u00fd. Zoznamka je pritom ove\u013ea efekt\u00edvnej\u0161\u00ed sp\u00f4sob, ne\u017e br\u00e1zdi\u0165 ulice v n\u00e1deji, \u017ee sa to stane \u201esamo\u201c. Ke\u010f n\u00e1s aj niekto o\u010dar\u00ed, zv\u00e4\u010d\u0161a nem\u00e1me odvahu pohotovo spravi\u0165 prv\u00fd krok. \u010carovn\u00fd objekt zmizne z obzoru a my ost\u00e1vame\u00a0 frustrovan\u00ed. U n\u00e1s na akcii je aspo\u0148 jasn\u00e9, \u017ee ak v\u00e1s tam niekto zaujme, m\u00e1te zelen\u00fa prihovori\u0165 sa mu\/jej, porozpr\u00e1va\u0165 sa, zozn\u00e1mi\u0165. Nik v\u00e1s \u0161karedo neodmietne. A\u00a0s t\u00fdmi n\u00e1zvami – \u00e1no, ch\u00fdba pekn\u00e9 slovensk\u00e9 pomenovanie… My sme ulietali a h\u013eadali. Dokonca sme vyp\u00edsali s\u00fa\u0165a\u017e. Boli n\u00e1vrhy ako p\u00e1rova\u010dka, l\u00e1skopriadka, vz\u0165ahov\u00e1 spojovate\u013eka, spojka, vz\u0165ahoviaza\u010dka, no ka\u017ed\u00e9 znie tro\u0161ku pritiahnut\u00e9 za vlasy. H\u013ead\u00e1me \u010falej.<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- \u010co b\u00fdva d\u00f4le\u017eitej\u0161ie pri \u201espriadan\u00ed r\u00f4znych p\u00e1rova\u010diek\u201c? By\u0165 vrcholov\u00e1 mana\u017e\u00e9rka, alebo sk\u00f4r b\u00fat\u013eav\u00e1 v\u0155ba?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
V\u017edy som mala bli\u017e\u0161ie k b\u00fat\u013eavej v\u0155be. Aj preto sa venujem dokumentaristike. Zauj\u00edmaj\u00fa ma \u013eudia, ich pr\u00edbehy, osudy. \u010casto je to i o psychol\u00f3gii. Jednu\u00a0 vy\u0161tudovan\u00fa m\u00e1me aj v\u00a0t\u00edme, vol\u00e1 sa Erika Cisarikov\u00e1. Erika sa venuje t\u00fdm, ktor\u00ed si najprv musia vyrie\u0161i\u0165 sebe \u0161kodiace vzorce spr\u00e1vania, aby si n\u00e1sledne dok\u00e1zali n\u00e1js\u0165 uvedomel\u00e9ho partnera. No aj pre mana\u017eovanie je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e1 empatia a schopnos\u0165 rozumie\u0165 \u013eudsk\u00fdm povah\u00e1m. Moj\u00edm mana\u017e\u00e9rskym m\u00ednusom je, \u017ee neviem hospod\u00e1ri\u0165 s peniazmi. Neviem si ich vyp\u00fdta\u0165 ani udr\u017ea\u0165. Ke\u010f ich m\u00e1m, tak ich ve\u013emi nemana\u017e\u00e9rsky miniem. \u017dia\u013e, m\u00f4j mu\u017e je podobn\u00e9ho razenia. Sme dvaja cvr\u010dkovia, ktor\u00ed nemyslia na \u0165a\u017ek\u00e9 zajtraj\u0161ky, te\u0161ia sa zo slne\u010dn\u00e9ho dne\u0161ka. Ani pl\u00e1nova\u0165 neviem, z administrat\u00edvnej \u010dasti pr\u00e1ce m\u00e1m vyr\u00e1\u017eky a navy\u0161e som \u0165a\u017ek\u00fd prokrastin\u00e1tor. V\u00fdkonn\u00e1 mana\u017e\u00e9rka zo m\u0148a nebude.<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Veria \u013eudia v l\u00e1sku na cel\u00fd \u017eivot? <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Moment\u00e1lne \u010del\u00edme trendu tzv. tekutej l\u00e1sky, prech\u00e1dzaniu zo vz\u0165ahu do vz\u0165ahu pod\u013ea toho, ako n\u00e1m to vyhovuje, aby sme mohli nepretr\u017eite za\u017e\u00edva\u0165 mot\u00fdle v bruchu. To si v\u0161ak vyber\u00e1 svoju da\u0148 – bez skuto\u010dn\u00e9ho otvorenia sa nedosiahneme hlb\u0161iu intimitu. Sk\u00f4r \u010di nesk\u00f4r doch\u00e1dza k roz\u010darovaniu, pr\u00e1zdnote. T\u00fa\u017eba po n\u00e1jden\u00ed spriaznenej du\u0161e, po naplnen\u00ed a s\u00faznen\u00ed s \u010fal\u0161ou \u013eudskou bytos\u0165ou je star\u00e1 ako \u013eudstvo samo. Aj ke\u010f na to na chv\u00ed\u013eu zabudneme alebo sa sna\u017e\u00edme presved\u010di\u0165 sam\u00fdch seba, \u017ee tak\u00e9 nie\u010do nepotrebujeme, v istom momente n\u00e1s to dobehne. Aj my chceme, aby n\u00e1s partner akceptoval tak\u00fdch, ak\u00ed sme, s chybami. No bez toho, aby sme spravili to ist\u00e9 a tolerovali in\u00fdch rovnak\u00fdm metrom, sa to ned\u00e1. To v\u0161ak znamen\u00e1 nez\u013eakn\u00fa\u0165 sa prek\u00e1\u017eok a \u0165a\u017ekost\u00ed, dok\u00e1za\u0165 robi\u0165 kompromisy na oboch stran\u00e1ch.<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- \u013dudia, \u010do \u017eij\u00fa sami, to v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inou ospravedl\u0148uj\u00fa zanepr\u00e1zdnenos\u0165ou, budovan\u00edm kari\u00e9ry, workoholizmom. Plat\u00ed to rovnako pre mu\u017eov i\u00a0\u017eeny? <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Toto je ve\u013emi rozmanit\u00e9 a nanajv\u00fd\u0161 individu\u00e1lne. M\u00f4\u017ee to by\u0165 skuto\u010dn\u00e1 potreba vybudova\u0165 si najprv kari\u00e9ru, z\u00e1zemie, bez rozpty\u013eovania sa citov\u00fdmi z\u00e1le\u017eitos\u0165ami. M\u00f4\u017ee to by\u0165 zlomen\u00e9 srdce, ktor\u00e9 sa boj\u00ed op\u00e4\u0165 za\u013e\u00fabi\u0165 a riskova\u0165 tak \u010fal\u0161iu boles\u0165. M\u00f4\u017ee to by\u0165 aj skryt\u00e1 obava, \u017ee ak sa \u201ed\u00e1m v\u0161anc\u201c a uk\u00e1\u017eem, \u017ee som pripraven\u00fd\/\u00e1 na vz\u0165ah, nikto zauj\u00edmav\u00fd ned\u00e1 najavo svoje sympatie. Ve\u013ea \u013eud\u00ed by aj vz\u0165ah prijalo, len akosi nie je s k\u00fdm. Ani nevedno, kde ho\/ju h\u013eada\u0165. A tak sa rad\u0161ej s\u00fastredia na pr\u00e1cu, kon\u00ed\u010dky, cestovanie…<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Mu\u017e by mal vo vz\u0165ahu zar\u00e1ba\u0165 viac a u\u017eivi\u0165 rodinu. A \u017eena by mala mu\u017ea obdivova\u0165 a vzhliada\u0165 k\u00a0nemu. Plat\u00ed toto e\u0161te?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Mo\u017eno to u niekoho e\u0161te plat\u00ed, u n\u00e1s doma rozhodne nie (smiech). S\u00a0mu\u017eom sa zdravo obdivujeme navz\u00e1jom. Aj zar\u00e1bame na strieda\u010dku. Na to, aby som k mu\u017eovi c\u00edtila obdiv, nepotrebujem od neho dosta\u0165 tu\u010dn\u00fd \u0161ek. Obdivujem ho kv\u00f4li in\u00fdm veciam. Pre to, ak\u00fd je partner, otec, milenec, \u010dlovek. Peniaze tu nehraj\u00fa rolu. Jedine ak tak\u00fa, \u017ee som rada, \u017ee nem\u00e1 komplex z\u00a0toho, ak ja zarob\u00edm viac, ne\u017e on. Je jedno, kto peniaze do dom\u00e1cnosti donesie, ak m\u00e1me pekn\u00fd vz\u0165ah a dok\u00e1\u017eeme si ich u\u017ei\u0165 spolu.<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Kampa\u0148 MeToo – ur\u010dite k nej m\u00e1te \u010do poveda\u0165. Ste na strane americk\u00fdch, alebo franc\u00fazskych hovork\u00fd\u0148 obet\u00ed mu\u017esk\u00fdch n\u00e1silnost\u00ed? <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Sexu\u00e1lne n\u00e1silie sa deje. Je pr\u00edli\u0161 \u010dast\u00e9. Ni\u010d\u00ed \u017eivoty diev\u010dat\u00e1m a \u017een\u00e1m. Nevhodn\u00e9 sexistick\u00e9 pozn\u00e1mky \u010di nevydaren\u00e9 komplimenty s\u00fa celkom in\u00e1 z\u00e1le\u017eitos\u0165. Tie som nikdy \u0161peci\u00e1lne nerie\u0161ila, hoci som ich za\u017eila ne\u00farekom. No zamie\u0148a\u0165 tieto dve veci a z\u013eah\u010dova\u0165 tak skuto\u010dn\u00e9 n\u00e1silie aj s\u00a0traumami, ktor\u00e9 v sebe nesie, pova\u017eujem za krut\u00e9 vo\u010di obetiam a \u0161kodliv\u00e9 pre cel\u00fa spolo\u010dnos\u0165. Sklamalo ma, \u017ee u n\u00e1s sa neozval prakticky nikto. Socializmus, komunizmus, totalitn\u00e9 re\u017eimy, kde m\u00e1 ist\u00e1 skupina \u013eud\u00ed neobmedzen\u00fa moc, nahr\u00e1vaj\u00fa zneu\u017e\u00edvaniu. Hoci sa re\u017eim zmenil, zmena myslenia si vy\u017eaduje dlh\u0161\u00ed \u010das. Ututl\u00e1vanie to cel\u00e9 len predl\u017euje.<\/p>\n
\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Ako mus\u00ed vyzera\u0165 mu\u017e, aby ste sa za n\u00edm oto\u010dili na ulici?<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Mus\u00ed sa usmieva\u0165. Ak m\u00e1 mu\u017e na tv\u00e1ri mil\u00fd \u010di vesel\u00fd \u00fasmev, tak\u00fd pr\u00edjemne sebavedom\u00fd, to up\u00fata moju pozornos\u0165. Mo\u017eno i preto, \u017ee usmievav\u00fdch mu\u017eov stret\u00e1vam na ulici \u017ealostne m\u00e1lo. Aj na mojom mu\u017eovi ma zaujalo, \u017ee sa ve\u013ea usmieval a smial. Doteraz si pam\u00e4t\u00e1m jeho veselos\u0165 a\u00a0to, ako na m\u0148a zap\u00f4sobila. A p\u00f4sob\u00ed st\u00e1le.<\/p>\n
\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n- Psychol\u00f3govia hovoria, \u017ee internet u\u010d\u00ed \u013eud\u00ed zbabelosti. A t\u00fdka sa to aj na\u0161ich vz\u0165ahov…<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
\u013dudia si radi z\u013eah\u010duj\u00fa v\u0161etko, \u010do sa z\u013eah\u010di\u0165 d\u00e1. Citov\u00e9 veci s\u00fa obzvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9, a preto mnoh\u00ed volia vyznanie l\u00e1sky no i ukon\u010denie vz\u0165ahu cez telef\u00f3n, sms \u010di mail. Je to jednoduch\u0161ie, no zradnej\u0161ie. Re\u010d tela je najd\u00f4le\u017eitej\u0161\u00edm faktorom, z ktor\u00e9ho od\u010d\u00edtavame skuto\u010dn\u00fd v\u00fdznam slov. Ak sa cel\u00fd d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00fd oznam zredukuje len na p\u00edsan\u00e9 slovo, \u010dasto doch\u00e1dza k mylnej interpret\u00e1cii a zbyto\u010dn\u00fdm nedorozumeniam. Okrem toho ka\u017ed\u00fd \u010dlovek si zasl\u00fa\u017ei, aby mu boli z\u00e1sadn\u00e9 veci komunikovan\u00e9 do o\u010d\u00ed. Priamym rozhovorom si aj tr\u00e9nujeme svoju komunika\u010dn\u00fa zru\u010dnos\u0165, c\u00edtime silnej\u0161iu empatiu, ak m\u00e1me dan\u00e9ho \u010dloveka pred nami. V\u00e1\u017eime viac slov\u00e1, vn\u00edmame, ak\u00fd dopad maj\u00fa na dan\u00fa osobu… To sa ned\u00e1 nahradi\u0165 displejom telef\u00f3nu.<\/p>\n
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\n- Ako by ste charakterizovali Slov\u00e1kov, najm\u00e4 \u010do sa citov t\u00fdka? <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Sme dos\u0165 introvertn\u00fd n\u00e1rod. Skr\u00fdvame svoje city aj n\u00e1klonnos\u0165 k \u013eu\u010fom, ktor\u00ed n\u00e1s o\u010daria. Boj\u00edme sa spravi\u0165 prv\u00fd krok. Strach z odmietnutia je ve\u013emi v\u00fdrazn\u00fd. Z mojej \u201ekupliarskej\u201c sk\u00fasenosti s\u00fa moment\u00e1lne \u017eeny ak\u010dnej\u0161ie, ne\u017e mu\u017ei. D\u00e1vaj\u00fa sa viac v\u0161anc. Mo\u017eno i\u00a0v\u010faka emancip\u00e1cii s\u00fa mu\u017ei trochu zm\u00e4ten\u00ed, nevedia, \u010do sa od nich o\u010dak\u00e1va. \u010ci je vhodn\u00e9, aby sa prihovorili, \u010di to nebude bran\u00e9 ako ob\u0165a\u017eovanie. Na druhej strane, \u017eeny st\u00e1le t\u00fa\u017eia, aby to bol mu\u017e, kto d\u00e1 prv\u00fd jasne najavo, \u017ee m\u00e1 z\u00e1ujem. Berieme sa pr\u00edli\u0161 v\u00e1\u017ene. Analyzujeme, ako na\u0161e spr\u00e1vanie vyhodnot\u00ed druh\u00e1 strana. Pre istotu potom rad\u0161ej nesprav\u00edme ni\u010d. Humor, nadh\u013ead, spont\u00e1nnos\u0165 a v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ia odviazanos\u0165 by prv\u00fd kontakt v\u00fdrazne u\u013eah\u010dili a na\u0161u psychiku pr\u00edjemne od\u013eah\u010dili.
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\n- Kult\u00farny poklad n\u00e1roda – m\u00e1me tak\u00e9 osobnosti, \u010do ho tvoria? <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n
Je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 ma\u0165 mor\u00e1lne autority, ktor\u00e9 m\u00f4\u017eu by\u0165 vzormi hlavne pre mlad\u00fdch \u013eud\u00ed. Nemali by to by\u0165 len \u0161portovci, ale aj umelci, \u013eudia, ktor\u00ed vytv\u00e1raj\u00fa hodnoty, diela, humanisti, filozofi, ktor\u00ed prostredn\u00edctvom svojej tvorby vzdel\u00e1vaj\u00fa, \u013eudia, ktor\u00ed svoj\u00edm \u017eivotom d\u00e1vaj\u00fa ostatn\u00fdm pozit\u00edvny pr\u00edklad. S\u00fa to aj \u0161tudenti, ktor\u00ed sa zmobilizovali a pom\u00e1haj\u00fa svojej krajine v kr\u00edze. S\u00fa to biele vrany, ktor\u00e9 sa vzopreli korupcii. Ka\u017ed\u00fd \u010dlovek, ktor\u00fd kon\u00e1 dobro a je mor\u00e1lne siln\u00fd, je svoj\u00edm sp\u00f4sobom poklad n\u00e1roda. Je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9 o tak\u00fdchto \u013eu\u010foch vedie\u0165, vyzdvihn\u00fa\u0165 ich, uk\u00e1za\u0165, \u017ee tadeto vedie cesta hodn\u00e1 nasledovania. Cez \u010destnos\u0165, slu\u0161nos\u0165, odvahu vzdorova\u0165 nepr\u00e1vu \u010di amor\u00e1lnosti.<\/p>\n
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\u00a0<\/strong>Druh\u00fa desiatku odpoved\u00ed si pre\u010d\u00edtate v m\u00e1jovom \u010d\u00edsle MIAU (2018)<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Presl\u00e1vila sa svoj\u00edm prv\u00fdm celove\u010dern\u00fdm filmom Moon Inside You (Mesiac v\u00a0tebe), v\u00a0ktorom odtabuizovala \u017eensk\u00fa men\u0161tru\u00e1ciu. Film nakr\u00facala e\u0161te v\u00a0\u0160panielsku, kde na barcelonskej Escola Superior de Cinema i Audiovisuals de Catalunya \u0161tudovala dokument\u00e1rnu r\u00e9\u017eiu. S\u00a0filmom precestovala kus sveta, uviedli ho a\u00a0ocenili viacer\u00e9 zahrani\u010dn\u00e9 filmov\u00e9 festivaly. V s\u00fa\u010dasnosti sa v\u0161ak o\u00a0nej hovor\u00ed sk\u00f4r v\u00a0s\u00favislosti s\u00a0projektom L\u00e1skaTu […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":5566,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[13,64],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-5560","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-etc","category-maj-2018"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5560","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5560"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5560\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5565,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5560\/revisions\/5565"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5566"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5560"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5560"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.miaumagazin.sk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5560"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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